People are hard wired to seek companionship, for it is through companionship that life is sustained. Everyone is seeking a lasting love; one that will be the shining example for everyone else to follow. We believe it is our right; we are entitled to it, and I agree that we are entitled to nothing less. But have you ever sat down and wondered if we have been equipped with the requisite tools to achieve the love and relationship we are so desperate to have. Is it even possible to have such a special relationship? Yes it is; however, our current way of going about our relationship desires will prevent us from achieving the very thing we desire.
When I look around society I see lots of confusion. People are ignoring the truth in an effort to chase individualism. Everything in nature is governed by truth, even individualism. By all means chase individualism, but be advised that if you are chasing individualism in an effort to create a personal truth that is separated from universal truth, then you’ve become a hamster in a hamster wheel. To be honest this type of behavior is not unnatural, when we observe nature there are organisms that operate similarly. Parasites and cancer appear to act against their own advantage; it is also the nature of the ego to consume its host in quite the same way a cancer does. I would go as far as to say; “people are acting very cancerous.” We need to stop. Let commonsense and reason dictate.
It is very unreasonable to expect a person you’ve recently met, a person who you don’t know to be perfectly suited to you without giving time to making some adjustments on both sides. None of us come perfectly suited to anyone, but with the requisite tools we can be. We have to be willing to have the mirror held up in front of us without denying or excusing our own reflection. Our eyes are forward facing so we can instantly recognize everyone’s short comings. However, because our eyes are forward facing it is not so easy to see our own. The smart person welcomes the mirror; for it is through the mirror we really get the opportunity to live the life we desire, the life we truly deserve, the life we are entitled to.
This piece of literate might seem as if it is only speaking in relation to intimate relationships, however all relationships operate on the same principles; whether they are friendship based, business, family, or intimate; the same rules apply, so feel free to apply these rules in all your relationships.
There are many reasons why people may struggle to find meaningful relationships. Some possible factors include but not limited to:
Social anxiety or shyness, Difficulty with communication or expressing oneself,
Low self-esteem or self-worth,
Fear of rejection or past traumatic experiences,
Being too picky or having unrealistic expectations,
Difficulty with trust or intimacy,
Lack of opportunities to meet new people,
Difficulty with compromise or conflict resolution,
It’s important to note that everyone is different and may have their own unique reasons for struggling with relationships. Additionally, some people may need to work on personal issues before they’re ready to form healthy relationships. And even after finding what has the possibility of becoming a meaningful relationship many people struggle to maintain relationships as a result of the reasons mentioned above, along with added reasons such as:
Difficulty with trust or intimacy,
Incompatibility or lack of shared values,
Lack of effort or willingness to work on the relationship,
Infidelity or betrayal,
Financial or other stressors that put a strain on the relationship,
Growing apart or changing interests over time,
Different goals or expectations for the relationship,
Being too individual in a union.
Again, it’s important to note that everyone is different and may have their own unique reasons for struggling to maintain relationships.
When entering into any relationship it is very important to identify from the beginning if all parties involved are operating from the same frame of reference. If you are not then the relationship will be tumultuous. Whenever people embark on building, whether it is a physical or emotional structure the fundamentals are the same; start from the ground up and make sure the foundation is adequate to support the required structure. Your foundation is the most important component to your structure. If your foundation is not constructed adequately then you structure will come tumbling down. As it relates to emotional structures the foundation is only secure if it is constructed from truth. If truth is not the raw material of your foundation the subsequent structure will face catastrophic failure.
Individualism In Relationships
Being individual in an intimate relationship is generally viewed as a positive thing, as it allows partners to maintain their independence and autonomy while still being connected to each other. However, like anything else, there are both advantages and disadvantages to being too individual in a relationship. Advantages:
Personal Growth: Being individual in a relationship allows partners to focus on their own personal growth and development. This can include pursuing hobbies, careers, and other interests that are important to them, which can help them feel fulfilled and fulfilled in the relationship.
Independence: By maintaining independence, partners are able to pursue their own goals and dreams, rather than feeling like they are being held back by the relationship. This can lead to a sense of freedom and empowerment, and can help partners feel more confident and secure in their relationship.
Better Communication: When partners are able to maintain their individuality, they may be more likely to communicate openly and honestly with each other, as they are not feeling suffocated by the relationship. This can lead to more meaningful and fulfilling conversations and can help build a deeper connection between partners.
Lack of Intimacy: When partners prioritize their independence over their relationship, it can lead to a lack of intimacy and emotional connection. This can be particularly problematic in intimate relationships, where partners are supposed to be able to rely on each other for emotional support.
Difficulty with Conflict Resolution: When partners are too individual, they may struggle to resolve conflicts in a healthy and effective way. This can be because they are not used to working together or compromising, and may find it difficult to find a solution that works for both partners.
Distance: Maintaining a high degree of independence can lead to emotional distance between partners. This can make it difficult for partners to connect with each other, and can lead to feelings of isolation and loneliness.
Difficulty with Sharing: When partners are too individual, they may have trouble sharing important aspects of their lives with each other. This can include their thoughts, feelings, and experiences, which can be crucial for building a deep and meaningful relationship.
In conclusion, being an individual in an intimate relationship can have both advantages and disadvantages. On the one hand, it allows partners to focus on their personal growth and development, and can lead to better communication and independence. On the other hand, it can lead to a lack of intimacy, difficulties with conflict resolution, distance, and trouble sharing important aspects of life with each other. As with any aspect of a relationship, it is important to find the balance between individuality and connection, so that both partners feel fulfilled and happy in the relationship.